Saturday, September 29, 2012

THE CHANGE OF HANDS


I was dropped off by Eric at 7:45 PM Sunday due to being late for other engagements that day, which pushed things behind. I was concerned about the fact I did not give a specific time to the Brothers as they were expecting me “sometime after 10 AM mass”. Eric assured me that nothing runs by time in Uganda and that as long as I got there before midnight, they would most likely not be worried. Turns out I caught them sitting down to dinner instead. First of many Faux pas I'm sure.  MY BAD.

It was dark when we headed out to Monastery. Eric was saying how glad he was that he decided to do a mountain bike ride to find it earlier that day. There would have been no way to locate this in the dark otherwise. We somehow managed to get on the correct road which looked like a rutted alley.  Navigation is a feat that can only be managed via landmarks and a driver familiar with the area as there are no street signs and maps are fairly useless. Forget street lights at night and believe me, the place is crawling with people at night! 

We pulled up to a large gate but no one was there or came when we honked. We kept calling numbers posted on the gate until someone answered. It was Brother Johnson. He came and opened the door and we saw before us a host of Brothers gathered by the door. Eric commented that it looked like the whole place came out to greet me. I just anxiously glanced at Eric suddenly feeling panic. 

We started pulling bags out of the car. I think the Brothers were a bit surprised and most likely thought they were all for me. Eric immediately starts teasing that I have 4 bags of shoes! The Brothers got a kick out his jokes alas at my expense BUT I was OK with this as it broke the ice. It was nice to have them haul everything in. Eric immediately turned to say “ OK…looks like they’ve got you covered” There was a moment of panic when he started to the door.  The reality of my year was before me. 

We sat down to dinner, me at the head. I had just finished a nice dinner with Eric but I wanted to join the Brothers and felt it would be rude to decline (Especially since I delayed their meal as it was). One of them was kind enough to ask me simple questions so that I wasn't sitting there feeling foolish. I was told I was the first and only year long volunteer that they have had. It looked like I was the only woman as well. Panic set in as I was imagining a year of quiet meals and whispered conversation. What can I possibly talk about?

Following dinner, Brother Johnson was going to show me to my room. I had to have 3 of the bags go up the 2 flights with me as they contained personal items. Brother Johnson recruited 2 other young strong Brothers. I saw them glance at each other. I have to admit, I wouldn't want to haul those things if it were me. It was funny seeing them struggle to tote the 50# bags up the stairs. Brother Johnson unfortunately grabbed the smallest but heaviest bag. He was breathless for nearly 2 min as he tried to give me the run down on the daily schedule. I felt a bit bad about this. I did assure Brother Johnson that most of the items were actually for them. They were all so kind and gracious that I was already starting to feel more comfortable. 

I didn’t realize I’d have my own room so that was a bonus! It is fairly large and has it’s own bathroom and shower as well. They were so kind to lay out towels, soap and toothpaste. I was excited. The Mosquito net was already up and I even had a desk and mirror. I went to bed excited that this might be an OK year, that I felt safe here at the Monastery and that a routine schedule will help me stay grounded. To bed I went...or tried. Sunday night parties were in full force and I was still struggling with  jet lag, BUT I managed to drift off. 

A WALK IN THE PARK


We took a walk after breakfast today. It was warm and muggy and the skies were threatening rain. I could hear the thunder in the background. Eric warned me we might get rained on but I was still game to go. Truthfully, a cold rain sounded very inviting, though unfortunately, it never came. I could not sit around another day, as it had been too long since I had my heart pumping. I was starting to feel “soft” so jumped at Eric’s offer to go for a walk.  


Eric porch


I put on a skirt, T-Shirt and running shoes. I’m sure I looked a silly sight but I did not want to offend by wearing shorts and it was much too muggy for long pants. Almost immediately we were “off road”. I have heard of Eric’s adventures before…heading off on his mountain bike trying to find every hill to ride in the city and enjoying the challenge of getting lost in small villages. At least he has been on this trail before. It is steep and rutted and unfit for car or mountain bike for that matter.

We are close to 3,000’ elevation and so it’s easy to start breathing hard almost immediately. We hiked through the endless red dirt piles up to the top of the hill to get a better view of Lake Victoria, which lies some 2-3 miles away as the crow flies. We hiked to a chorus of bird songs and odd noises but rarely saw the creatures making them.

Up and over the top we went and down into a small community of houses being built. They all seemed abandoned. I was unsure which projects ran out of money and which were laying dormant until the new work week. The walls are made out of stone and cement mainly due to the threat of termites. I did get to see my first termite mound, which was HUGE! Apparently the locals like to eat them when they are ready to fly. Unsure if they taste better then or not and I’d rather not know.

We wound down trying to aim for the Lake but this would prove to be much too far away with no straight path leading there. Instead we meandered through people’s back yards trying to find a road back out and up. We started to see small children playing in tattered clothing curiously watching us. They waved and said “Hello” for the most part and some even jumped up and down in happy surprise pointing at us shouting “Muzungu! Muzungu!” (White person! white person!). We smiled and waved back. We finally came across a small dirt road which we followed as it seemed to go in the general direction we wanted.

We also started to see many more adults. They did not seem as interested to see us. We received hard long stares and no smiles. I was not sure if it would be appropriate to smile and say “Hi” as we were clearly in a Muslim section of town. I asked Eric if I should walk behind him. He chuckled at the comment though I was half serious. This was obviously a poor section of town not often seeing Muzungus taking a Sunday stroll down the streets. Eric seemed unconcerned and said it was OK to nod and ½ smile of they made eye contact. I did though still did not get any form of acknowledgement from either men or women.

View of downtown Kampala from hill top
Restuarant


We stopped at the town center, which consisted of 6 shacks with a few hand painted signs open for local business. There wasn’t much of anything going on though one sign advertised cell phone air time cards. People didn’t look like they had enough money to eat let alone buy an air card. Men sat around chatting until we walked up and then they just stared. The kids initially kept their distance watching us in small groups for safety. The road was only fit for foot travel or Boda Bodas (small motorcycles) which kicked up heavy red dust as they drove by.

Eric told me I needed to try a lemon drink. He ordered 2 for us as well as handful of “sweet’s” in the form of small suckers before fielding a phone call.  The shop owner looked concerned and kept asking me if we would take it with us or drink it there. I was not sure what he was asking me but I started to realize it had to do with the bottles. The glass is worth money and he was worried we would walk off with the bottles after we were done. Eric then stepped in and said we would drink them there.

I asked about how to give out the candy. This is also Eric’s favorite thing to do on weekends during his long Odyssey rides. He finds a small town center, buys a soda for himself and candy for the kids then passes the candy out. He instructed me to wait until we catch the children’s eye and wave them over. You could tell they all wanted to come as they nervously looked at each other and then back to us. Some started towards me when I held up the bag but then turned back and hid amongst their peers.

One young boy decided to be brave.  I saw his eyes get wide and a smile cross his face when he realized we had “sweets” in the bag. That’s all it took and then Eric was mobbed. The children all said “Thank You” respectfully. Eric tells a story of passing out candy in one village when a boy grabbed a candy and ran off. A woman ( not his mother) reprimanded him and made him return to thank Eric properly. They are a proud people and very respectful.

We then headed up the road towards home. We passed women working the fields, chickens and roosters running all over. We passed brick makers busy at their task of putting a mud cover over the circular stacks of bricks to hold in the heat of the fire burning in the middle. This is to dry the new bricks out. These men seemed interested in hollering to us. They waved laughing as we passed. I suppose we might look odd walking there for no particular reason.

The already narrow dirt road quickly became a path wandering through fields. There were crops of corn, beans, potatoes and some wild tomatoes growing in the weeds. We even saw Jack fruit trees which looked more like giant fuzzy green tumors growing from the branches. There were even pineapples which are apparently much sweeter and have little acid in them compared to their USA counterparts.
Sorry stuffed Lion. The closest I'll ever come!


Eric pointed out some other plant that I cannot remember the name of. It is a form of a white starchy root sort of like a potato. Eric tells me people don’t like to eat it because this is what was fed to the slaves at one time. A stigma still remains attached to this plant. It also has little nutritional value if any. Remnants of white fibrous balls lay strewn on the ground where we walked. Eric pointed them out to me stating this is sugar cane, which the farmers chew and then spit out. I was amazed at how good all the crops looked. The leaves were green and not eaten by bugs.

We finally managed to pick our way back to the main road and back home. The final treat was seeing a tree full of Weaver Birds. These amazing looking birds were of the brightest yellow plumage with red eyes, hints of red in the feathers around the face and spotted black on the wings. Very striking! They hung upside down off balls of woven grass flapping their wings wildly and squawking for the attention of the females. Apparently they mate for life. The prettiest nest gets the girl so to speak.

That was only a few of the amazing birds we saw though I might save that for another entry! I wish I could give detailed accounts of everything I saw today but I would bore you to death! I did not bring a camera for the main reason of threatening rain and on the advice of Eric. It is impolite to take pictures unless one asks permission. I feel like I need to get to know the people before I start snapping pictures that may not begin to represent who they really are. 


Another view of Kampala from a hill top


I am amidst a whole new color wheel of sights and sounds….it is really hard to take it all in…I will try and hope to in time. 

PRESENT AND ACCOUNTED FOR

Just a quick note to let all know I made it to my new HOME in Uganda last night safe and sound! Once on the plane, all was smooth sailing. The trip from Amsterdam to Entebbe was especially comfortable and I was able to see all the movies I had not been able to see before I left!

I arrived, as did all my bags, at 9:30 PM Frid 9/28/12. The airport, though small, could have been PDX for that matter!

The drive from the airport to Kampala at night was interesting. I was getting into the car when Eric said "unless you'd like to drive, I suggest the other side". Ooops, Forgot. The whole way home, I kept thinking we would get hit being on the "wrong" side of the road.

Driving here is pretty much like a video game. People generally kept to their side of the road though dodging cars without lights and people dressed in dark clothes crossing the road was an experience. We drove past small markets still open (since it was Friday PM), music, sounds of music and laughter You can see hills and hills in the backdrop of the night sky (despite the high beams shining in our eyes from oncoming traffic).  Little lights dotted the hills to the city edge but then there was a line of just darkness spanning out from there.

The roads up these hills are generally steep. We pulled onto a rutted dirt road past the Lab where Eric works to a little group of houses. Most houses have high walls, barbed wire and a gate. There was a funeral going on in his complex so many cars and people were there. Eric said people here go to funerals all the time, a very unfortunate thing.

We sat on the porch in the nice 70 degree F night air and chatted for a bit before turning in. There are many more unfamiliar sounds (esp at night!). I slept very well and though woke early (7:30 AM) went back to bed for another 2.5 hr nap before finally getting up. Eric is on a mountain bike ride ( I would be there as well if there was another bike!)

I am sitting here looking out over cloudy skies. There is a nice breeze and the temp feels like the low 70's. A strange looking bird the size of a hawk just landed in the top of tree nearby. It has a plumage off the top of the head that makes it look prehistoric in a way. I did my usual bird whistle but only caught the sleepy gaze of a dog on the porch. I hear thunder in the background as it is now getting into the rainy season.

Sorry no pictures for now. I will try and take some in the next few days.

PEACE OUT!

Carol

Thursday, September 27, 2012

SYNCHRONICITIES

YES...I am supposed to be in Uganda right now and NOT posting a blog entry but alas, there are always reasons....often hidden. This is the motto I subscribe to as it has proven to be true time and time again.

My flight last night had to turn around after 2 hrs due to a cabin pressure failure (no worries, there was a back up but the problem requires the captain to return) Despite trying to fix the problem at the gate (we hung out on the plane during this) We turned around again after a second attempt to leave. Alas, my departure is delayed by 1 day. Though tired, I try to look at this as a BIG adventure knowing there are surprises lurking around the corner! Who knows what gifts this turn may bring?!

I struck up a conversation with a fellow passenger, Dr Marleen Temmerman, while at the hotel this AM. We ended up having breakast together. Turns out Dr Temmerman was here for a UN meeting re the WHO (World Health Organization). She is an OB/GYN as well as researcher/professor at Ghent University in Belgium and member of the ICRM (International Center for Reproductive Health). Dr Temmerman is a Senator in her country of Belgium working on international legislation to improve the status of Women's Health worldwide. I learned that she started out in international health working in Kenya and ended up staying for 6 years (sorry Mom, it might happen)

I received sound advice on the need to take things slow, learn the culture and understand that change comes very slowly (all of this also said in our CMMB orientation) We discussed the same struggles occurring in  international health politics, the need to have open and non judgemental approach to issues to avoid defensiveness and allow the seeds of change to begin.

I found out that Dr Temmerman knows Dr Eric Arts (Professor and Director of the Ugandan CFAR Laboratories) who will be picking me up at the airport in Entebbe. This was another Synchronicity in that Eric and his wife Courtney have been incredibly helpful in getting me oriented to Uganda and will help me get settled there. I met them through an old grade school mate, Jim Karlovec, who heard about my trip through his Mother (one of my Mother's best friends).

I have had time to reflect on the amazing synchronicities that have occurred over the last 5 months while sitting here in Newark airport. Who says one can't obtain enlightenment in NJ? Those who have heard this story already can attest to the "falling into place" of all things re this mission trip. It's too amazing to ignore. I might actually try and list them out sometime but I fear it may end up sounding like a list of "So and So begat so and so who begat so and so". Truthfully...that is how this is all happening!

OK...In our training we were told to include people stories and pictures. So here you go! Pictures and stories:
Dear Friends Liz and Mike
holding "dinner" on my last visit to
Whidbey Island before I left 
I am shy by nature though am learning through friends and example to just reach out. Last night I was sitting next to a woman with an accent that sounded slightly familiar. She was not smiling despite my offer to give her an extra pillow. I overheard her saying a word phonetically sounding like "Key-Lance" the Hungarian number "9". I asked her if she was Hungarian and she smiled and nodded. We then laughed for quite some time about the only Hungarian I knew (translated as 1 2 3 4, little dog where are you going...it actually rhymes in Hungarian though) We chatted about my family and hers and we both commiserated over the 7 hours on the plane for naught. She was lovely to talk to though I forgot to get her name. She and her husband were on their way to vacation in Venice before visiting family in Hungary and Romania. She was sad that the vacation part in Venice would now be cut short. I wished her the best in her travels.

An amazing Dutch painting at the
art museum in DC
I was sitting on the shuttle back to the airport this morning. Everyone appeared quite grumpy (most of us were on the cancelled flight the night before). People sat fiddling with their cell phones, looking at the floor or focusing on nothing in particular.  No one was smiling. All was silent save for a young woman talking anxiously on her cell phone to someone about her struggle to change her return flight. I was trying not to listen in but it was hard as she was the only distraction on the shuttle. I suddenly recognized her as part of young couple who had been standing ahead of me in line during re-booking of flights from last night.

I had a flashback of this woman looking distraught while in line, waving her hands speaking fast and in near tears. I had overheard her mention that they were coming home with their sons though it was obvious they were not flying with them at the time.

I decided to continue to practice my "reaching out" experiment from this morning. I asked the young woman (Stacy), now sitting across from me in the shuttle, if she was traveling to meet her sons. I  apologized that I had overhead her mention them the night before when in line.

Stacy broke out into a smile telling me that she and her husband, Josh, were on their way to Congo to pick up their newly adopted sons. She was so upset by the delay because they had been waiting against many odds for 2 years to bring them home. They had to be in country for 5 days before the paperwork could take place and 1 day more was just too unbearable to wait. She was anxious as a new mother would be, just wanting to hold her babies (both 23 months) finally in her arms. I wished them both well and suddenly the whole shuttle broke out into well wishes and congratulations. I assured her that I felt all would now be smooth for them. I silently said a prayer for the safe journey home for this new family.
My own Siblings ( Bobby, Me, Marty and Annie) 

There are amazing stories all around us....I suppose one just needs to have the courage to say "HI" in order to open a new and amazing book!

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

THE HAYDEN FAMILY


There are people that stand out in our lives, people that are always willing to help, always offering support, always ready to give from the heart. These people are placed here by God to give us inspiration and act as role models for all of us who forget just how lucky we really are!

Liz (back) then L to R: Anna, Chris and Matthew

         The Hayden Family is just such a family. I am honored and humbled to know them!


Making homemade apple pie and/or goofing around
The Hayden Family has been a Godsend in the logistical execution of this trip. They acted as a central  shipping center for all the supplies and donated items for the MOP. They picked me up from the Newark airport, drove me to orientation, watched my bags, picked me up again after my DC trip, fed/housed/entertained me overnight and then lugged me, my (4) 50# bags of supplies, my carry on and computer back to the Newark airport to leave last night.


Matthew and Anna made sure I slept well that night by putting me through the paces: They crushed me in a game of HORSE, made me "dodge" in an intense Dodge Ball game; get whooped in a game of "Bootsie" (similar to bloody knuckles but with a ball), participate in a paper airplane competition, took me on a 2 mile hike through the woods jumping off rocks, sliding down dirt piles and chasing Scout the family dog. They topped it off with an arm wrestling contest (guys...my R arm is STILL sore!!) All of this before dinner and after homework!


Jonathan: the Hayden's sponsored child

Chris (Physical Therapist) and Liz (Audiologist) own and run a successful rehab clinic called North Jersey Pro Rehab. Chris is well known in the area for his compassionate and skilled care. He has never had to advertise for this reason. Chris is a very humble man and incredibly generous with his own employees and to the community.  I highly recommend him if anyone needs rehab! 


Both Anna and Matthew have taken on the compassionate qualities of their parents. They are excited that I might be able to take a gift of a soccer ball to their sponsored child/brother Jonathan who happens to live in Kamapala. Matthew even placed one of his toys on my bag to take to the kids in Uganda. He bugged me until he was sure I packed it and would not forget to take it. Anna and Matthew...you inspire me!



THANK YOU HAYDEN FAMILY! 

Monday, September 24, 2012

THE NATIONAL SHRINE




Our Lady at the entrance of the Chapel
One of the most amazing things I was able to visit was the National Shrine in Washington, DC. This Cathedral has so many chapels, stained glass, artwork and shrines that one could spend an entire day there and never see all of it.

Sharon and I were lucky to have our own tour guide (my cousin Mary Lynn) who guided us through what seemed like secret passages that wound around and through the building leading to more more amazing artwork.

Main Chapel
There is an air of both serenity and yet Majesty about the place. We arrived in the main chapel to a dead silence followed by the ringing of the bell choir with soft a capella chant singing. It raised the hair on all of our arms as the sounds echoed throughout the place. We just stood there as if we had walked into the scene of a movie waiting for the great ceiling to open and rays of light pour down along with angels.

On the ceiling of the main Chapel 
St Vincent De Paul
I highly recommend spending a good deal of time here. It is truly a place of quite repose and communion with God. A good starting point for my journey!


I took a picture of the St Vincent De Paul shrine for the St Rita branch of the St Vincent De Paul society. I am still so thankful for your generous donation!

TRYING TO PLAY

Abe in the morning light
OK..here in Washington DC. Trying to relax and play a bit before heading out. I remember being here in grade school but we saw only a few things compared to the vast amount of museums and monuments to explore!

NOT the leaning tower FYI

We, my good friend Sharon from North Carolina and I, managed the following in the last few days: A White House Tour, a tour of the National Shrine, Driving tour of the Cathedral, China Town, Natural History Museum, Museum of the American Indian, a pedi cab tour of downtown (highly recommended as these guys are very entertaining!), a Kennedy Center play (Sheer Madness...very funny). I was able to visit with my cousin Mary Lynn who is like a sister to me. 

I did a running tour of most of the monuments yesterday AM which helped burn off excess anxiety about leaving. I found myself snapping pictures of the inspiring words of our forefathers and leaders. We are so blessed to live in this country and I have no doubt my life is meant to transfer this gift to others.

We must all remember this

(We were given an education on how to take pictures while at CMMB....I seemed to have already forgotten the rules)

FDR Monument
FDR Monument 



FDR Momument


FDR Monument

Eleanor Roosevelt
The Jefferson Monument



The Korean War Memorial
Feeding T-Rex!
I think I found my Ancestor!
American Indian Museum 



 One more day of play before heading back to Newark Tuesday. I get to spend some time with the Hayden Family before leaving Wednesday!

Thursday, September 20, 2012

ORIENTATION

There is something about Orientation that makes things like giving away all your belongings, leaving your job, moving across the world seem suddenly real. There is something very scary about "suddenly being real"... HMMM
Stella Maris Retreat Center

We (there are nearly 20 of us) are in Orientation for CMMB for the week 9/17 through 9/21/12 at Stella Maris Retreat Center. The retreat is located on the New Jersey Shore right on the ocean. I am listening to the waves crashing on the beach and the crickets sing as we speak (by the way, you can hear both through earplugs). The food was really fabulous esp the desserts!...Thanks Chef! Hell's Kitchen has nothing on you!

I have to say that our group is a pretty amazing and talented group of professionals of all age spans and all skills...MD's, RN's, researchers, Public Health professionals, OTs (you hear that Robin???) psychologists, surgeons, NP's, PA's, pastoral care. I have loved getting to know these amazing people and hearing their stories...all similar callings and synchronicities.
The ocean view from the back 

 CMMB has done a fabulous job at bringing in people from the field to give us as much information as they can to help us prepare. There is no way to be 100% ready....there is the leap of faith one must take and the courage to follow one's calling.

During the special Mass and hand blessing, Father Kaeding reminded us that we are not alone...God is always walking with us. How easy to forget and how silly that forgetting seems. The 7th grade class of Holy Cross Church hosted us after Mass to a wonderful food fest. The whole class was delightful and fun to talk to!


The sunrise ( thanks to the sound of the crickets and waves) 
Christina, Emily, Heather and Laura at Holy Cross Church









Soo...I head off to bed so I can board my plane early to DC to play and relax for awhile before shipping off.

Did I mention the food???

 The Stella Maris "Food Baby"

Friday, September 14, 2012

A TRIBUTE TO MOTHERS

The logistical planning for leaving the country for a year can be a bit overwhelming at times. I think I have everything done and several new things pop up. All takes time...much more than I had planned. I am home for a last visit with family and friends....the plan is to spend quality 1 on 1 time together and take a breather before heading out. That was the plan though not the reality.

Anyone who knows me, knows I am a planner and fairly adept at organization and efficiency. Despite this, I worked at getting ready up until 11:30 PM the night before I left...not the calm peaceful exit I had hoped for.

There is just something about "Moms".  I could not have gotten ready these last 10 days if it hadn't been for my Mom. Somehow, they know what to do without asking. They go about their work with a quiet methodical efficiency, taking care of several things without one knowing it is even happening. While I am frantically updating accounts, trying to get information, ordering last minute supplies for the trip, my Mother is in the background moving quietly like the stealth of a panther. I look up from my work and I see all my laundry done and hanging (I still don't know how she manages to fold things so nicely), the sewing machine out and my pants being taken in (I like Good Will shopping and tend to get things that don't fit....the safety pins though functional and practical, are just not that attractive)

Mom has also managed to run several errands for me,,,batteries, over the counter meds, pens, etc etc. There is also my favorite food sitting out on the table...all of this done in a very short span of time with no outward request.

Mom at my Niece Natalie's soccer game 


THEN, there is the "Driving Miss Daisy". Since I am out of town, I have no transport for errands. The plan A sort of fell through and I never thought of a plan B...SOOO.. in between my Mother's normal schedule of: going to church, taking communion to the homebound, chairing the prayer quilt ministry, taking time for coffee with family and friends, attending the lunches and get togethers at her apartment complex, working on the prayer request phone chain, etc etc, she has to drive me all over town to run errands and take care of business before I leave.

My Mother just keeps going and going. She drives us to Columbus, Ohio to visit with the rest of the family gathering there. I immediately get out of the car and want to take a nap. She, having driven the 2 hrs to get there, immediately starts on laundry, cleaning windows and doing dishes then chasing after my 2 yr old nephew.

I have No idea how she does it. I have no idea why I was so lucky that God decided to give her to me. It must be because He knew I needed a LOT of help! So..3 cheers for MOTHERS ...ALL Mothers. The world is a better place because of you....You are the strength and the thread holding this world together. I can't wait for the time when the rest of the world wakes up and realizes this!!!

HIP HIP HURRAY! HIP HIP HURRAY! HIP HIP HURRAY!